To What Extent, If Any, Should The Influence Of Parents And/or Family Of Origin Matter When Children – Coursework Example

Influence of Parents


Every individual is unique and therefore, has a right to his/her own thoughts, ideas, opinions and decisions in matters that affect their own future. However, there are familial ties that bind them and make the situation more complex than it actually is. In trying to seek autonomy, even while maintaining family ties, the question of parental influence in the decision-making process and the ethical and practical considerations to be taken in this respect, is bound to end in considerable conflict. The reasons for such conflict depend on many different factors which would be discussed below.


1) Old and new generation – Though times change, most elders do not favor such change and hence stick to their old thoughts, ideas and opinions which they may try to exercise on their wards when the situation arises. (Cunningham, Mick and Arland, 2006) Most of the new generation kids are open to change and adapt themselves as changes occurs.
2) Non- traditional couples – In the case of non-traditional couples (Gay/ Lesbian) there is bound to be a lot of opposition from parents and other family members while choosing their life partner. Such couples would have to make bitter decisions at the cost of their family because since parent’s beliefs and opinions are so deeply rooted, they would definitely oppose their decision. (Savin- Williams, 1998)
3) Children of Immigrants – Children from immigrant parents face a lot of conflict as they have to cope up with their old tradition while adapting to their new one. Parents who try to force their traditional way of thinking and acting are bound to face a lot of problems with their young children who have already prepared themselves and adapted well to the way of life in their new surroundings.


In my opinion, parental influence at this stage when the person has grown into an adult and has the right to their own opinion and decisions, should be kept to a minimum and should be exercised only when really necessary. Such a mature outlook would serve to bond the family members more closely and help them to enjoy a better rapport with their children.


Savin- Williams, Ritch and Eric M. Dube. “Parent reactions to their child’s disclosure of a Gay/ Lesbian Identity. Family Relations, Vol. 47, No. 1 (Jan 1998). 7 – 13.

Cunningham, Mick and Arland Thornton. “The influence of parents’ Marital Quality on Adult children’s Attitudes towards marriage and its Alternatives”. Vol. 43. No. 4 (Nov. 2006) pp. 659 – 672.